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Acknowlegements and Gratitude

This book feels like a river that has dozens of tributaries that have trickled down mountainsides to join a  big flowing body of water.

My first debt of gratitude goes to the amazing participants who shine from each activity in this book.  These brave souls entered workshops ready to learn and experiment and share their hearts.  My life has been so enriched by their honesty, vulnerability, playfulness and capacity to learn and grow.

 

Summer Institute facilitators and participants with their certificates in Khorog, Tajikistan.

I also have had the fortune of supervising talented student leaders who have worked  with me in creating so many of the activities and events described in these pages.  Their creativity, intelligence and kindness bring me hope that this younger generation might do a better job of stewarding this planet than mine has.

These activities have also been brought to you by a long lineage of educators, facilitators, colleagues, co-conspirators and friends who have shaped my world views and facilitated experiential learning events with me over the last 40 years. Many of their names are clickable if you want to know more about the cool work they are doing out in this world.  The titles of the workshops that we developed and facilitated together give some indication of the breadth of how these activities can be used.

Stars in my facilitator universe:

Dr. Bruce Fraser – taught the first training I took in facilitation skills. We practiced our newly emerging skills out in the world at environmental summits and a mining reclamation conference.  His encouragement started me on a long journey!

Debbie Larson – beautiful co-facilitator of “Children Who’ve Witnessed Abuse” contracts and parenting workshops.  She gently gave me important feedback that when I got nervous, I sometimes dominated the co-facilitation process. I have paid particular attention to that power dynamic in the years since.

Leslie Comrie – Designed and co-facilitated “Living Life On Purpose” workshops with women and then co-piloted many healthy campus initiatives at Selkirk College.  I remember lots of laughter and mutual respect as we created interactive learning experiences for a variety of groups.

Sarah Beth Hughes – Sarah Beth is gifted narrative therapist who challenged me to expand my counselling world view.  We co-facilitated women’s groups and supported community members to organize meaningful rural women’s retreats and conferences.

Qamargul Esoeva – Qamargul and I co-facilitated 14 life skills seminars for first year university students covering everything from self-esteem, cultural identity, study skills, time management, intercultural communication and conflict resolution. In addition, we organized Mental Health conferences both online and off-line that included people from many different countries and backgrounds.  She is an awesome organizer, and it was a joy to co-facilitate educational events with her.

Dr. Murodbek Laljabaev –  Murodbek and I  created a research project that explored ways that new discoveries about neuro-science could enhance quality of life for students. Murodbek and I come from very different professional worlds as he is an environmental scientist, but we balanced each other’s styles and enjoyed including the students as our co-researchers for this innovative project. We had both completed  the Harvard on-line course  the “Science of Wellbeing” taught by Dr. Laurie Santos and we wanted to see if her approaches were relevant for our Central Asian students.  Murodbek presented our project and findings at a Teaching and Learning Conference in Karachi and we won  a prize for our research.  Here is a summary of our research posted in the British Pluralistic Practice blog: Pluralistic Practice/shaking-the-pluralistic-kaleidoscope-on-a-central-asian-campus

Safeera Jaffer –  When the covid crisis hit in 2020, students from the Naryn campus in Kyrgyzstan had to return to their homes. Safeera and I made the trek back across the globe to British Columbia. As part of the student life team, we decided to design an on-line version of the “Neuro-Science of Well-Being” program that Dr. Laljabaev and I had piloted.  We recruited a group of 15 students who were in lock down in their homes in Tajikistan, Kyrgyzstan, Pakistan and Russia.  They would join us weekly as we explored ways to make these concepts and practices relevant to the strange times we were living in.  Safeera was a wonderful partner in designing and implementing an educational program  in the new frontiers of Zoom education.  We were both blown out of the water by the quality of the students’ final projects where they presented their personal experiments that involved adapting wellbeing strategies to their lock down realities.

Bonu Hafizova – Bonu and I designed and facilitated 8 sessions for students focussed on Art and Bullet journalling to develop organizational skills and self-expression.  Bonu is a brilliant, super organized and insightful educator.   I would facilitate anything with her anywhere!

Sheroz Naimov and I co-facilitated  the  Khorog  Youth  Engagement  Project.  Sheroz  was an avid participant in the Summer Institute courses that covered counselling skills, group dynamics and conflict transformation.  It was a pleasure to see his innate skills in working with youth grow and his deep insider knowledge of Pamiri culture and the Khorog community provided immeasurable insights into how best to facilitate projects with Khorog youth.  We spent time in many highschools and then organized and facilitated a complex photo voice community project with teens.  Sheroz is an amazing human who is continuing to provide inspired and compassionate leadership to his community.

Davis Cooper and I co-piloted the Dasht community art project bringing the ocean rock mural to the village.  I had the concept and Davis made it happen with multitudes of students and children helping out. Davis is a bright light of creativity and charisma.

Alisha Rajani – Alisha is a skilled leader, educator and management professional.  We co-facilitated workshops using Clifton Strengths for self-empowerment and team building with the HR departments spread through three Central Asian countries.  We also co-facilitated on-line World Cafe teambuilding workshops for two University of Toronto departments, while everyone was still in pandemic lock downs and working from home.  I have always been honoured to work with someone with her integrity, compassion and professionalism.

Samreen Kalani and I co-facilitated the first Summer Institute to take place in Tajikistan. She is a skilled psycho-dynamic therapist and she brought new ideas and perspectives to our focus on mental health and counseling.

Dr. Elena Kolesova –  Elena and I met each other in Kyrgyzstan just before the world closed down with covid. When she was back teaching from home in New Zealand and I was counselling from home in Canada, we collaborated to design and facilitate an on-line workshop in “Intercultural Skills for Faculty at UCA.”  This was an online opportunity for new and old faculty from two campuses to get to know each other and explore ways to understand each others’ cultures and values.

Dr. Randy Janzen –  Randy and I were colleagues at Selkirk College in British Columbia where we co-facilitated a program called “Good Neighbours” that taught mediation skills to community members. Years later Randy reached out as he was interested in teaching “Conflict Analysis and Transformation Skills” in Central Asia.  He and his intrepid partner, Mary Ann Morris, are both amazing  educators and social justice activists.  It was a total pleasure to collaborate with both Randy and Mary Ann in Tajikistan and Kyrgyzstan where they brought their skills, expertise, openess and humour to our Central Asian communities.

Moik Alisher – Moik and I co-facilitated staff development sessions for the 2023 Summer Institute on Naryn Campus.  She is a powerhouse of ideas and is skilled at helping  groups explore issues related to mental health, support skills and team building.  It was a pleasure to watch her strong skills as a therapist and facilitator and our styles were complementary in helping the group to bond and grow together.

Abdullah Nazari –  Abdullah is an important member of the KAAJ Team that is empowering education for Afghan female students.  It has been a mind and heart opening experience collaborating with Abdullah to offer workshops on resilience, communication and wellbeing.  The young women in this program are passionate about learning and the KAAJ team is helping them to work towards their educational goals despite living in a country that bans education for women.

And special bushels of gratitude to Jonny Morris

When I look through the activities I have compiled here, I can see Jonny’s imprint everywhere. From the “Eat and Art” activities in the Selkirk Pit, to  “Dinner Basket Conversations” about substance use, Jonny’s leadership role with Healthy Minds | Healthy Campuses gave me a green light to move beyond the counsellors’ office and into the kitchens, hallways and residence lounges where life is lived and new ideas about creating community could thrive.

After several Canadian  collaborations, Jonny then agreed to meet me across the world in Kyrgyzstan and Tajikistan to launch staff development training programs that explored communication, counselling skills and group dynamics in  remote, mountainous, post-Soviet communities.

Jonny is now the CEO for the Canadian Mental Health Association in British Columbia.  The world is so fortunate to have his transformational vision and skills and I have been particularly lucky to have shared in co-facilitating amazing, life-changing programs with this superstar.

Jonny Morris CEO CMHA

Linked In Jonny Morris

 

There have also been bosses, supervisors, teams and organizations that provided the institutional support, finances and logistics that are needed to make these kinds of learning experiences possible.  Many thanks to the following people and workplaces that prioritized emotional intelligence and human connection.

I would also like to give warm hugs of appreciation to my good friend and travel buddy, June Stockdale, who read and edited an early draft of the book while we were both staying in Ubud, Indonesia. She was so encouraging of the project, that it lit a fire under me to work towards some kind of completion.  We all need someone who believes in us and gets us through the dry spells when we have lost confidence and vision.  Thanks June!

I am also thankful to Don Sawyer, facilitator, educator and writer extraordinaire, whose feisty activism has permeated the way I see experiential learning and its potential for social change.  He graciously agreed to look at this book with the eyes of a facilitator and give me honest feedback on how it could be most useful in this fractured world.

Erik Krauss  is a wonderful support person and mentor to staff and students around the world and he is the current Vice Rector of Student Success at Sampoerna University, Jakarta. He  also kindly read through an early version of this book and his detailed mind found many  grammatical and formating errors.  This book is much less annoying because he took the time to send me very specific feedback.  Thanks Erik!

Dr. Tim Dyck, research associate at the Canadian Institute for Substance Use Research, has continually offered his kind support and mentoring to wellbeing projects our team piloted at Selkirk College.  He now has entered the ranks of my heroes for his fastidious editing of the manuscript of this book.  He helped me realize I have serious problems with comma placements and his astute feedback has elevated the grammar and punctuation of each and every exercise!  Huge gratitude to Tim for his massive efforts in providing meaningful feedback.

Some of my favourite humans, Bonu Hafizova, Melody Anderson and  Dr. Diana Pauna, also took time to read through the  book and had insights. editing and suggestions that improved the final product.   Big hugs across the world to Germany, Canada and Latvia  to you lovely friends!

Wayne, Faelan and Freya Lundeberg

Wayne and I met while facilitating youth and community development projects in rural communities in British Columbia and Sumatera, Indonesia.  Since then we have facilitated raising two amazing humans, created homes and gardens and explored  many fascinating and beautiful parts of this world together.  This book couldn’t have happened without the love, support , laughter and fantastic food provided by Wayne.   And waves of gratitude  flow out to our kids, Faelan and Freya who fill the heart of my heart.  So much of what I know of love and connection has been learned with and from them and it just keeps getting better as they create their own interesting lives with Jill, Braden, Yaga and Navi.  Om Sawasti Astu to my beautiful family.

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